Why am I a perfectionist?

I’ve never understood where it comes from. I didn’t try to be perfect as a kid, so why did these demands on myself appear as I grew up? And it’s not like it helps me. The standards are often too high, even impossible.

Have you thought about seeing a psychologist? Honestly, after 3 years of therapy, I can say it really works. And I used to be a serious perfectionist. My reason for seeing a psychologist wasn’t even about that issue. But as I solved other problems, I got rid of this one too.

To some degree, I’m a perfectionist too, and I get you in many ways. Personally, perfectionism doesn’t bother me. On the contrary, I’d even say I’ve learned to use it to my advantage. But I’ve also read a lot about unhealthy perfectionism. I recommend the Breeze Wellbeing article on eldest daughters, as well as many other articles on this resource, which I think is amazing. Check it out, maybe there were reasons in your childhood that made you the way you are. And I agree, if it bothers you, it’s time to see a specialist.