o.k., so I've been following this thread from the beginning and decided to start over from scratch and do the suspension the 'fredswain' way and start with the springs first. My truck handles (turns)great, but the shocks could be dialed in much better for bumps and jumps.
I removed all the shocks and drained all the oil and checked the pistons just to make sure everything started out even. Well, somehow I had 1.5mm/6 hole pistons in the rear shocks and 1.3mm/6 hole pistons up front. I thought I had 1.3 in all 4 shocks, all this time(those little #'s on the pistons are hard to read), so that was part of some of my setup issues from the start.
So I switched the pistons out to all the same ones (1.2mm 7 hole)and started with my stiffest springs up front and started soft in the rear and worked my way up in spring rate until I had as close to spring balance as possible (my spring frequency was way out of whack to start with). Then I moved shock positions until I found perfect frequency when dropped from about 6" off the ground and when pushing down on the chassis from the balance centerpoint that I measured beforehand and marked on the chassis.
Also, before doing the spring balancing, with my 4 harbor freight digital pocket scales under each wheel I was able to get the front /rear balance to 50/50 by moving the battery and electronics around without adding any additional weight to the chassis.

tuning with oil is next, but I need some lighter oil than the 35wt I have now, as I started with 40wt(too slow rebound) and moved to 35wt which is getting close to where it needs to be. I was running 45-50 weight oils before. Hitting the track tomorrow for some testing and will post results.