Ok. The included wires you solder your favorite connector to the open end (what ever is on your charger). Then you use those wires for charging. The bullet ends go into your battery (red pos, Black neg and small one in the balance port). Then you plug the white connector into your balance port and plug the connector to your charger.
For running the battery in your car you only use the Pos and Neg ports. So you can solder a male bullet to your ESC negative wire and plug that into the Neg port and then solder a male bullet to your ESC positive wire and plug that into the positive port and you are good to go.
The included wires are for charging and not for using in your vehicle.