>>I would suggest you get your balancer from the company that makes your lipo.
You can get adapters for balancers so they match most lipo's if you want to do it that way.
Always charge balance lipo's

I have SMC Lipo, I don't beleive they make their own balancer, I couldn't ever find their website, just retailers.

>>The balance plugs on lipo's are not all the same.

I beleive SMC balancing plugs are the standard type with the standard spacing.