Thanks guys, the problem I did not have the nut all the way in, so I thought
I could pull it into place... Opps....
What I did is cut the tabs out and used an allen wrench (the same size as the nut) and it work great, so I have a T-nut with out the tabs...
Building the shocks... boy that was fun... Does any one have any suggestions how to get the top foam in place, following the directions it wrong when I take the cap off and look at it... I'm thinking of using a socket to push all the parts for the top in place first...