I have more or less understood what does what on the car and how to correct the issue through tuning but I'm still a little lost to what is the right setup.

So far I was always looking for the smoothest/slowest reaction speed/nervousness of the car thinking that it would help to keep it smooth and clean but I'm realizing that in fact it could give me the exact opposite of what I'm looking for...
What is the general consensus for this matter ?
Is it better to have a slow reacting car and basically yank the steering wheel from one end to the other ?
Or do most people prefer a super shark reacting car and then turn the steering wheel with very smooth and small inputs ?