Oh boy you're in for a fun ride then. Part of the hobby is becoming familiar with your kit and knowing how to work on it. It can be frustrating at first, but trust me, it comes with time. The forums can be really useful for info as well.

The flywheel is the black metal wheel that's attached to the front of the engine. Spin the bottom edge of the flywheel towards the left side of the car (this would be counter-clockwise if you are facing the front of the engine) until you feel it get past that tight point of resistance. From that point, try to start your engine again. There's an opening on the bottom of the chassis where you will be able to see the flywheel. Remember, it's the black metal toothless wheel, not the plastic toothed gear. The toothed gear is the spur gear.

On another note, when you finish with your car for the day, do not let the engine cool with your piston at TDC. You want it at bottom dead center (BDC). You can roughly find that point by doing the exact same thing with the flywheel as I mentioned above. Be careful though, the flywheel will be hot.