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Old 10-11-2009, 11:45 PM
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Some of us are single with the flu...

But I've had a few serious girlfriends and none were particularly supportive of my hobby; or the fact that I play with real cars too.

Didn't matter that they weren't lacking for anything time-wise or monetarily; they just didn't like it for whatever reason.
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Old 10-11-2009, 11:58 PM
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Originally Posted by segmentfault View Post
I need some serious suggestions of how to mellow out the wife when it comes to RC. She sees the hobby as a waste of money and time, which I can agree to some extent; but I work real hard and need my fun on the weekends.

Any ideas of how to get her to like the hobby, or get involved? She's pretty stubborn.

just be like. well its either this or cocaine. you pick. and if she picks cocaine. well idk hahaha.
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Old 10-12-2009, 12:07 AM
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Originally Posted by UN4RACING View Post
I can help you here. My wife told me she wanted some painting done. So I did all day. I was calling it a day when she said she wanted to get it done.
I said hold this and handed her the paint brush. I then looked her in the Eye and said yep just what I thought.? It fits your hand to. The day was over.
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Old 10-12-2009, 12:49 AM
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My gf really loves me and is totally supportive of my racing or anything I am passionate about. If your spouse is unhappy because you race or have a hobby....well.......there are much bigger problems present than rc racing.
I believe that if your life and your spouses life is in balance then there shouldnt be an issue. My situation, I go race on saturdays all day long, she does whatever she wants. Sometimes she goes with me, which she does more ofthen when I have to go out of state or long distances to race. she is there to support me because its important to me. Shes not into racing but shes into me. Thats a good relationship..IMO

its just sad when I see guys that cant race because of their wives. In reality rc racing is about as dangerous as church. all the tracks Ive ever been to, what are the basic rules? No drinking...no cursing due to the family atmosphere.. no fighting. And most tracks must have some kind of hot chick repellant system installed because they are few and far between. Your wife should support you going to hang out with a bunch of rc racing guys lol.
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Old 10-12-2009, 01:30 AM
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make her a wedding car! XD

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Old 10-12-2009, 04:45 AM
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i told mine the two hobbies that i would partake in is rc or bein a porn star take your pick

lol we all see where i am
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Old 10-12-2009, 06:10 AM
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There is no easy answer (imho).

We are all different in what we like, and do not like.

My wife knew about me racing r/c cars before we got married, but has never once wanted to come with me. Being surrounded by guys and probably no women is probably not a good/ideal situation to be in I guess.

My wife likes doing dance sessions, will you see me doing the same thing?...

I even offered her the chance to come with me and go shopping whilst i raced, still no dice. I gave up after that

Our 4 year old son who likes cars will be 5 in june. I sense some more time at the track coming my way...

Our second son is only just over a month old, the transmitter wont fit into his hands... yet
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Old 10-12-2009, 06:21 AM
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Give her some lovin.
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Old 10-12-2009, 06:28 AM
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Originally Posted by Jordan23 View Post
Give her some lovin.
That doesnt win mine over to come racing with me.

Sometimes, women just do not like cars. They can eat $ pretty quickly, even through normal use, wear and tear.

I'm still happy to take her out or buy her something now and then, spend time with her etc etc, but r/c racing is a no go topic with her.
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Old 10-12-2009, 06:42 AM
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If the $$ is not being spent on them there not happy I don't know if mine likes it or not. I think she tolerates it but dosn't want anything to do with it works for me
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Old 10-12-2009, 07:07 AM
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My girlfriend supports me a lot in this hobby, is even my mechanics
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Old 10-12-2009, 08:00 AM
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This thread received a lot of attention I see.

There were some great comments and suggestions, however almost all of them I have tried. Someone said dancing lessons. Yes, she likes those too and has been asking me to go with her. Maybe if I bite but bullet and do those with her, she'll get off my case when it comes to RC.

On a last note, I don't want to knock anyone in this thread and I understand all of our situations are different; however, wife status is a much different status than a girlfriend. Girlfriends are always more accepting of anything - most of the time they don't feel they have the power to control every aspect of your life, and if you're younger, they probably aren't living with you as well. If you do have a girlfriend, let her know if you ever get married, then rc is a part of your life.

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Old 10-12-2009, 08:10 AM
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My wife is the same way. I was doing r/c before I met her, going to the track everyday, then we met and then everyday turned into a few times a week. Then we had a kid, then it turned into once a week or once every two weeks, that went good for the first few months. Then she wanted to have time to herself, so I had to start taken a young child to the track which does not work well at all. Then the econemy took a sh*t and work hours where getting cut and money was going to different things. So I was maybe going once a month. If I had a hobby she wanted a hobby but she could not decide what she wanted to do or find enough money to support it. This past winter I got a new job which was second shift so I was home even less and also not able to race during the week, mostly what I had done. Weekends where family time so I did not race to much then. I sat and not went to the track for most of the winter. I then sold my racing stuff and decided to get a 1/5 scale to bash around, I ended up working on it more then driving it. She pretty much wants me to sell my stuff but when I have a chance I go to the track even if its just to drive around which I plan like a week ahead of time. Now another child is on the way, so I'll see what happens, my first kid is thurning three but I think it might be a little young yet to drive an r/c around.
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Old 10-12-2009, 08:22 AM
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You should do the dance thing with her and let her know you are doing it for her even if you don't like it you Love her and you are willing to do things you don't like to make her happy. And then next time you go racing and she says something tell her that some times people do thing's with there wifes out of Love even if you don't like dancing you will keep doing it out of love and you hope that se will look at Rc the same way.
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Old 10-12-2009, 08:49 AM
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I got back into RC after being with my wife for a few years. We werent married but we were living together and had a 2 year old son.

I have been racing now for the better part of 10 years. We've had arguments about it. Some I won, some I didnt, others ended with new solutions.

Having a RC budget is a good idea. That way everyone knows whats being spent on what. I have a 2nd bank account where I keep my RC money. This eliminates the fear I will blow the money for our bills on something RC related.

Then you gotta figure out a schedule that works. I usually only race 2-3 times a month. I usually race around my sons sports and her schedule. I can usually manage to work around it but sometimes I make an exception. Because I dont make exceptions often it usually is not an issue.

You ought to be able to work things out. If she isnt willing to work towards a compromise that is a problem that needs to be addressed first. You cant just do what she wants you to do all the time because you wont be happy like that.
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