let me tell you where you went wrong. you didnt lay the rules down from the beginning. i told my GF from day 1: there are 3 times in a relationship. 1. is US time. 2. Me time. 3. You time. if you dont have these 3 times in a relationship, you become to dependent on one another and that is a recipe for disaster. My parents have been married for 35 years and you could see the strain because they only had US time going. since i talked to my parents about it, my Pops has taken up Karaoke, and my mom has taken up volunteer work, and their relationship has never been stronger. So you either tell her you need the 3 times, or you will have her take a dirt nap.